For the past month our family has been missing one element from it every day until late in the evening…. Chad! Chad is the head engineer at the Libby Pumpkin plant. This plant makes 80% of the pumpkin in the USA. This year they started 3 weeks early (July 28) and will try to go until the middle of November. This means that for 4 months, 7 days a week, 12-13 hours a day Chad will be at the plant.
When I first heard about this job 2 years ago it was only a 2 1/2 month ordeal and even then I wasn’t sure I liked the idea of Chad being gone every day for 2 1/2 months until 8pm at night. This year when they took on more pumpkin ground and more time I really wasn’t sure at all…but we have to do what we have to do. Right??
So many people say “At least he has a job…” “He makes great money.” Etc. Etc. Etc. While I am thankful for these things (and I truly am) I wonder constantly about the bigger picture. What are we sacrificing for the sake of America’s pumpkin pies?
We are only 4 weeks into this and Chad is exhausted. The kids miss their dad a lot and don’t understand why he won’t come home earlier. Chad and I are definitely not connecting as couple because we are both too tired to do anything after the kids go to bed. We watch an episode of something on TV enjoying the quiet and then head to bed.
While this isn’t ideal I think of the sacrifices other families make when someone is in the military. They may be gone for months if not years – usually an undetermined amount of time.
Or what about the single moms/dads that have to do all of this by themselves year round. These families are my new heroes.
While I am trying to detour the negativity about our short term situation of Chad temporarily being gone for pumpkin seasons I have to remind myself that he is at least coming home every night. There will be a definitive end to pumpkin season. He also will be home for the holiday season which is so important to me.
I am reminded during this seasons of themovie/book Pollyanna about the little orphan girl who moved in with her rich Aunt Polly. She brought a tired little town to life with good thoughts. She always found the good in everyone and in every situation. She even told the preacher who preached hell fire and brimstone that there were 826 “Glad texts” in the Bible. She had a different perspective on life and it spread like wildfire throughout the town. She played The Glad Game!
Sometimes we have to have a “Pollyanna Perspective” on life. We have to look for the good in every situation. There are so many good things that come out of this season of the year…..
I remember how capable I am to take care of the household, kids, etc all by myself.
We appreciate the time when he IS home more than usual.
I get more bonding time with the kids which I will someday miss.
The list could go on and on…. Do I always remember these and am I always “Glad” about this season… no! There are days that are absolutely horrible. With 2 preschoolers things are hectic and there are days they just can’t get along. Things don’t always work out how I want and the house becomes a disaster waiting to explode. However I try to remember the good things going on in life and put on my rose colored glasses if only for a while.
As Abraham Lincoln said…
Do you have your “Pollyanna Perspectives” on?