Embracing Different Views…


It was just another day on social media….

I was scrolling through my news feed looking at everyone’s family Christmas pictures, yummy holiday treats, and all of the happy Holiday happenings when suddenly it was interrupted by….

A POLITICAL POST! (*Cue the psycho theme music)


It had been a while since I was interrupted with something that broke up the joyful nature of my Facebook feed. But there it was…. Outrage from one of my friends. From that day onward the political posts continued to take over my feed. I could chose to ignore these posts (and sometimes I did unfollow posts of that nature – not unfriend people – just unfollow the political site,) but if you know me at all I am a very passionate person. As hard as I try I like to keep political talk to a minimum, but do enjoy stating my opinion. So I reposted an article that I thought was neutral but it turns out no matter how neutral the post – people on both sides of the fence will commentate.

I realized after watching this political battle on my news feed that I had a pretty even number of friends on both sides of the fence. I had friends that were very liberal and friends that were very conservative. Most of the people that I engaged with on either side of the political spectrum were civil and could get into a healthy debate. A few people were irrational and were just there to argue, but for the most part it was healthy discussion. And after many years of having a Facebook presence I have only had 1 friend block me due to my political beliefs.

It was here that I realized…. I have a very diverse group of friends. This made me happy! I was so glad that I had surrounded myself, not just with people who think like me, but people who had different viewpoints. Sometimes we get into a homogeneous mindset and only want to be around people that think just like us because it’s easier to just pat each other on the back thinking we are the only right way.

Proverbs 18:2 (NIV) says ” Fools find no pleasure in understanding
    but delight in airing their own opinions.” 

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When we surround ourselves with people that don’t always have the same perspective and ideas as us we become challenged. Find people that will ask you the hard questions. We can have people push our ideas and ask questions which in turn can strengthen our own ideas OR can change our perspective to include someone else’s thoughts. Sometimes a mind shift is a good thing! Our eyes may be opened to something else that we didn’t even consider.

I’m not asking you to change your ideas just because someone else says so, but I am challenging you to look through another lens and to walk in someone else’s shoes.

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So as a challenge I ask you to embrace people that don’t always share your viewpoints, whether it involves politics, religion, race, and ideals. Will you rise to the challenge in 2020?

Having a Pollyanna Perspective during Pumpkin Season

For the past month our family has been missing one element from it every day until late in the evening…. Chad! Chad is the head engineer at the Libby Pumpkin plant. This plant makes 80% of the pumpkin in the USA. This year they started 3 weeks early (July 28) and will try to go until the middle of November. This means that for 4 months, 7 days a week, 12-13 hours a day Chad will be at the plant. 
When I first heard about this job 2 years ago it was only a 2 1/2 month ordeal and even then I wasn’t sure I liked the idea of Chad being gone every day for 2 1/2 months until 8pm at night. This year when they took on more pumpkin ground and more time I really wasn’t sure at all…but we have to do what we have to do. Right?? 
So many people say “At least he has a job…” “He makes great money.” Etc. Etc. Etc. While I am thankful for these things (and I truly am) I wonder constantly about the bigger picture. What are we sacrificing for the sake of America’s pumpkin pies? 
We are only 4 weeks into this and Chad is exhausted. The kids miss their dad a lot and don’t understand why he won’t come home earlier. Chad and I are definitely not connecting as  couple because we are both too tired to do anything after the kids go to bed. We watch an episode of something on TV enjoying the quiet and then head to bed. 
While this isn’t ideal I think of the sacrifices other families make when someone is in the military. They may be gone for months if not years – usually an undetermined amount of time. 
Or what about the single moms/dads that have to do all of this by themselves year round. These families are my new heroes. 
While I am trying to detour the negativity about our short term situation of Chad temporarily being gone for pumpkin seasons I have to remind myself that he is at least coming home every night. There will be a definitive end to pumpkin season. He also will be home for the holiday season which is so important to me. 
I am reminded during this seasons of themovie/book Pollyanna about the little orphan girl who moved in with her rich Aunt Polly. She brought a tired little town to life with good thoughts. She always found the good in everyone and in every situation. She even told the preacher who preached hell fire and brimstone that there were 826 “Glad texts” in the Bible. She had a different perspective on life and it spread like wildfire throughout the town. She played The Glad Game!

Sometimes we have to have a “Pollyanna Perspective” on life. We have to look for the good in every situation. There are so many good things that come out of this season of the year…..
I remember how capable I am to take care of the household, kids, etc all by myself. 
We appreciate the time when he IS home more than usual. 
I get more bonding time with the kids which I will someday miss. 
The list could go on and on…. Do I always remember these and am I always “Glad” about this season… no! There are days that are absolutely horrible. With 2 preschoolers things are hectic and there are days they just can’t get along. Things don’t always work out how I want and the house becomes a disaster waiting to explode. However I try to remember the good things going on in life and put on  my rose colored glasses if only for a while. 
As Abraham Lincoln said…

Do you have your “Pollyanna Perspectives” on?